The capacity to control one's grief is something inborn or innate as is the susceptibility to indulge one's grief and to let grief vanquish one's will-power. Fanny Dashwood's violent outbreak of feeling towards the end of the novel reveals that too little feeling is as dangerous as too much.
Marianne Dashwood — the romantically inclined and eagerly expressive second daughter of Mr and Mrs Henry Dashwood. Elinor's disposition is certainly affectionate, and her feelings are certainly strong. Ferrars's tampering with the patriarchal line of inheritance in her disowning of her eldest son, Edward Ferrars, as proof that this construction is ultimately arbitrary.
Marianne finds Edward's manner of reading out a poem to be spiritless, tame, and devoid of sensibility. Always feeling a keen sense of responsibility to her family and friends, she places their welfare and interests above her own and suppresses her own strong emotions in a way that leads others to think she is indifferent or cold-hearted.
He was sent into the military abroad to be away from her, and while gone, the girl suffered numerous misfortunes—partly as a consequence of her unhappy marriage.
Though attracted to Edward, she is cautious, telling her sister, "I am by no means sure of his regard for me. Elinor feels somewhat worried by this friendship which comes to the notice of everyone who knows them.
That uncle decides, in late life, to will the use and income only of his property first to Henry, then to Henry's first son John Dashwood by his first marriageso that the property should pass intact to John's three-year-old son Harry. She even agrees to accept from Willoughby the gift of a horse though it is not possible for her to maintain and feed a horse.